Embrace the You you want to be

At 26, I realize I have come a long way. I’ve had great support and I am blessed. I have the opportunity to be who I want and do what I want. I am becoming a new version of myself and there’s nothing wrong with that.

We want to think that we will always be that kid. We want to hold on to the past because change is inconsistent with who we think we are, but this is not the case. Change doesn’t have to mean an end to YOU. It can mean a better YOU.I think most of us are holding on to the past because it’s youthful and certain. We knew who we were. Change can be a scary thing, but only if we look at it with scared eyes. Personal development is like the  snake’s shedding of dead skin and the starting of fresh layer. At the end of the day, it’s still a snake. At the end of the day, you are still you but a newer version. An updated version. Embracing it is a great feeling especially when you can control the You you want to be. The world isn’t constant, why do you think things in it will be?

Movement at the crossroad

The moment you begin to move when you’ve been at a crossroad for a long time is a confusing, quiet, scary and exciting one. It’s like an encounter with a bee, where you’re quietly backing up while a bee buzzes crazily around you.Your heart is beating really fast. Inside you’re fanning the thing away but on the outside you are cautious in your movements. Any quick move will set it off. 

Life has many crossroads, but we only mentally notice a few. The rest we were too young to understand,notice or care about. Yesterday as I drank wine and engaged in conversation with my partner, I took note of the movements at my crossroads. And though it’s scary, I thank God and I welcome it, because as my husband said, I seem to have a horseshoe up my ass.

I  also took note of how my personal likes and preferences are changing. I took note of new interests as well. Interests I’ve always been quick to deny as a kid because I didn’t want to see like one of those people. Let me give you a simple example, when I was younger, I could give two shits about fashion, technology, science, cars etc. Now, I find myself wanting to learn more about it all.

Everything comes with time, and with time your interests change—usually to fit the context. It”s possible that my being 26, and going into a new territory professionally, one with heavy responsibilities, has everything to do with this transition. At 26, I’m realizing it’s okay to care about you. It’s okay to be selfish sometimes. It’s alright to invest in yourself.It’s not about caring what other people think, it’s about caring how you feel.


Victims of sexual assault expect privacy. But 16-year-old Jada was violated all over again once explicit images from her rape surfaced on Twitter. So Jada decided to take her story public.

“There’s no point in hiding,” the Houston teen tells KHOU. “Everybody has already seen my face and my body, but that’s not what I am and who I am.”

I’m sharing this because certain people on twitter  NEEDS TO BE STOP! Specially the ignorant side of black twitter! Every time something bad happen to a young black women or black girl twitter is quickly to explode it into something bigger! And Jada story is one of them! She’s a 16 years high school student she could be your sister,cousin, neighbor, or classmate! This tragic thing happened to her and these ignorant people on twitter looking for followers exploit this to point where the disgusting hashtag was created #jadapose. People tweeting pictures of themselves in the pose in which Jada was found! What I find even worse about this its that a lot of the people doing these poses are young black men and women. Something like this happen to someone who could possibly be your sister and instead of asking for justice you rather create a new meme? And some of them even argue “oh how do you know she got rape?” Does it matter? a picture of an underage girl laying on the floor looking like she’s passed out is not something be laughed at EVER! Like ”A rape victim’s trauma is not grounds for a new internet meme. Pls do not partake in such ignorance. Report pictures.”

I’m happy and proud of Jada for speaking and not letting this disgusting thing becoming any bigger

Which brings me to what I’m trying to ask or say here when will sexual assault towards black girls and young black women will be taking serious by young black people?

There’s no excuse. A lot of people, young people especially, are becoming desensitized to the pain of others. You see pictures of people harming others online and one of the first things people run to do is make a meme in order to mock others. And for what? So you can get a few favs on twitter? or instagram? There is a disconnect and  a serious discussion must be conducted.

You may say they are kids being stupid and they don’t know better, but kids who don’t know better; who aren’t taught better become adults who do no good.Whatever is going on in these households needs to be addressed.

(via shan-starr)

"Some people exist just to point out where you went wrong. Don’t let these people stop you from going somewhere. In fact, keep it moving, and pay attention only to those who will point you in the right direction."


From the archives: the 2008 poster campaign that reversed 16 years of declining sales for Canadian Club whiskey. Fun fact: The vintage photographs came from the family albums of agency staff.

Agency: Energy BBDO, Chicago

The ads are cool, but what’s cooler is the fact that the pics are from the family albums of agency staff.